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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..
What You Learn During a Falling Out
Growing up, my mom and I tended to move from place to place, depending on our financial needs of the moment. Being the shy (and slightly geeky) girl that I continue to be today, I often found difficulties in making friends. That is, until I took up residence in a big city in California. There, I met a half dozen of the kindest, funniest, most genuine people that I had ever had the pleasure of calling friends. For about a decade, we shared school lunches, crushes, secrets, and jobs. We embraced good times and helped each other through bad ones.
By Autumn Rain8 years ago in Humans
Changing Everything Part 1: He Left Me for the D
Sometimes, we want things out of people that they just can't give. This can take many forms. Time. Money. Affection. Respect. We end up feeling incredibly hurt by their lack of ability to meet our standards. Now, sometimes those standards are really high and just flat out fucking ridiculous. You can't expect someone to do everything, or anything, for you and you give nothing back. This is not the way the world works. Even a gold-digger has to give up the vagina. Nothing is free. This includes friendship. Everyone comes with a price. While that price may not be monetary, it still exists. For most people, this price is some characteristic we find annoying or offensive. But, in order to maintain these friendships, we put up with their bullshit. The real question is, at what point is the price too high?
By Amanda Washburn8 years ago in Humans
Get Out
Don’t let anyone tell you that it’s okay. You do not deserve to be treated like an animal. You are independent. You have self worth. You deserve so much better. Do not let the abuse take away your life. Get out of that situation. Abuse can occur a variety of different ways. There’s sexual, verbal, emotional, or physical abuse. No one is worse than the other. All are just as bad.
By Madison Rheam, B.A.8 years ago in Humans
Why You Should Apologize, Even If You Don't Want To
When you think of apologizing, you think that you're admitting that that person was right and you are wrong. That you're admitting you deserved what was said or done. That you're weak. That you had no right to do or say what you did. But that couldn't be more false.
By Ashley Hamilton8 years ago in Humans
Love After a Long On-Off Relationship
I spent the majority of my teenage years thinking that I would be with the same person for the rest of my life. I felt that I knew everything there possibly was to know about them, and that our bond was unbreakable after many hormone-driven tantrums and break-ups. We still found our way back to each other, that to me at the time was special. I'm now 19 years old, and now realise that this was, to put it lightly, total crap. However this issue isn't just exclusive to teenagers, on again-off again relationships seem to be more common now than ever, but is the hassle really worth it? I don't think so. Is there a better option? Definitely.
By Lucy Clarke8 years ago in Humans
I Almost Said 'I Do'
Almost. We've all had one of those almost perfect love stories; the guy we met unexpectedly and believed the accidental unexplainable connection meant "this is it." The conversations begin with our likes and dislikes, and somehow within hours, we're talking about marriage and planning a future. The most exciting part of someone new in our life is we are finally healed from the past heartache. We get those silly, heart beating out of our chest, world series winning kinda feelings again. This one is to the girls who keep letting their guard down countless times with no fear in the world. The girls who love deep and love quick. Once upon a time, that was me. Several times it was me, in fact. Each relationship I've ever started, left, or broken away from began the exact same way. I don't think the problem was how it began. It was, after it all ended, my heart still beating for these people who left me broken hearted several times. My worst habit was never letting myself fully recover from each love. The idea of having them want me again made me feel alive again. Well, over the past week I've started to work on that habit and learn to love myself. Thousands of people say to love your self before dating anyone, and it never really worked that way for me. Except things changed this time around. I'm taking full control over my heart and emotionally damaged self.
By Amy Johnson8 years ago in Humans
Growth in a Relationship
Let’s face it, no one is perfect. We were all born as babies then as we got older, we absorbed different programs from all areas in life. When we get with someone and decide to be in a relationship with them, we go in with the good things that we contribute in the relationship as well as the baggage that can hold ourselves and our significant others back from becoming the best people that we can be in that relationship. Growing as both individuals and as a couple is a key factor to having a successful and happy relationship.
By Spencer Jean-Mary8 years ago in Humans
Psychological Abuse in Relationships
Domestic violence has been a large topic in the media lately. So I think it’s time that people become more aware about the different kinds of abuse. Abuse is not just limited to someone beating, shoving, and cussing at you. There is a whole different side of abuse. It’s called psychological, mental, and emotional abuse. Some people might say that this kind of abuse is the most damaging because it causes emotional wounds that don’t heal like physical wounds.
By Krisjoyy Smith8 years ago in Humans
I Had My First Kiss at 18!
I had my first kiss at 18 years old. Yes, a full-fledged "grown up." Just to put you at ease, I am an active, relatively attractive, and I think, pretty funny girl. When I started college people were shocked that I hadn't had my first kiss it seemed like an everyday normal part of adolescence that I skipped.
By Mackenzie Matthews8 years ago in Humans
